Emotional learning
Learning never ends … It continues forever …
How to get control of your emotions, how to channelise your emotional energy.
What to prioritize, when to step down, whom to allow in your inner space.
Resolving all these and many more dilemmas are part of our emotional maturity.
Now answer for these might vary from person to person depending on their own experience, values and philosophy.
What I am trying to find or is searching for is there a common generalization or better put an empirical formula which can be applied to life to make it more stress free. Relieving one from the emotional n mental shackles created by our mind about the emotional bondage.
How can a person be in this world, live laugh dance and still be completely detached to the people around him.
How can one achieve that state of mind where the pity success and loss, friends and foes, happiness and sorrow become nothing bt a play of a child.
Once that state is achieved that is what I will call as emotional maturity.
Amma says “only he can love truly one who is completely detached”
I think I kinda gtta answer to this
We have to get attached to one supreme Almighty lord of all … Cos once we experience his grace we will not be able to get attached to anything worldly knowing the fact that only He is eternal.
Swami Purnamritananda Puri has citied an example of a child s detached love, he says A child sees no evil for there s nothing but goodness in its mind. Its mind is filled with the thoughts of its mother. Its world is its mother; its faith is in its mother. The words of others cannot rob its faith because it has experienced the love embodied by its mother. It is not interested in any1 else. If it doesn’t see its mother it will cry. That is the only language it knows.
Do we cry for the supreme love, if we can cry for it then we need nothing else to protect ourselves from the worldly miseries.
Cos the Almighty mother will come to the rescue at once…
Mother how can she stay away from her crying baby How ??
And Almighty lord is the mother of all infinite mothers…
With heart brimming from the love for its children how can the Divine Mother stay away…
She is here just a call away …
Shivoham Shivoham …
Waiting for tommorow
Maybe tommorow it wont hurt this much
Maybe tommorow I will not wait for you
Alone here clinging to the frail hope
Maybe tommorow this dream will end
Painful yet adorable
Guilty yet sweet
Maybe tommorow I will wake up in a glowing morning
Leaving the wicked sorrowful yet soothing thoughts of yours
Maybe I will never ever look back to the memories of yours again
Maybe you will vanish away in the mist of past like a dream of midnight
Maybe someday I ll wonder about what I feel today
Maybe lost I am, thinking of what cannot be or what should not be
Wondrous is the way, the play of heart
How fickle how tender are the thoughts
I adore it as much I am tormented by it
Love has left me soaked in anxiety in this wait for new morrow
Beauty of Waiting …
We are all part of a super sonic era, where technology has made our life simpler n world is becoming a small place. We have everything at a tap of a finger, be it ordering a pizza or booking a ticket. But somewhere and somehow this simplification has complicated our lives. We have stopped loving and taking pleasures in small things. Our happiness is slowly becoming more expensive.
These days everyone is in hurry to reach the next destination they HATE waiting … Be it waiting in the queue, waiting for your friend or waiting for your coffee to come.
Waiting like other activities has a subtle beauty of itself. It gives you time for yourself, time to reflect on your thoughts.
Pause it …
Take little time off…
Brush off the thoughts from your mind…
Take a deep breathe …
Feel the breeze around you …
Listen to the harmony of music that flows around …
See where you are running to …
See people around you busy in their cluttered chatter…
It all seems to be a part of a movie, you urself playing a major role.
So when the wait s over you will feel rejuvenated n thats the beauty of waiting 😀 😀
Right or Wrong
Many a times we are faced with the dilemma in life about what is right and what is wrong?
What might be wrong for you might not be wrong for someone else.
Right and wrongs
Dos and donts
Depends a lot on one’s upbringing, culture and society from where he/she hails from.
Even generation gap plays a major role in the change of ethos, values and culture.
In this fast growing world, we tend to flow with the current trend and especially in a country like India where family, culture and society play a very important role in one’s life, a major question that pops up is …
What we think right is it what we ACTUALLY think or is it what the society thinks is right ??
Most of the time these two “rights” are conflicting and often the answer to the question henceforth is complicated 🙂
Even we tend to meet diffrent genre of people in the process of growing up and sometimes their thoughts also influence our value system.
So back to square one how do we decide whats right and whats wrong ??
Now this is how I do it step 1 and 2 are simple but step 4 might take lot of will power and emotional strength
Step 1 : write it down. Writing clearly always helps than making notes in mind.
Write down what you want think is right and what you want to do …
Step 2 : next think… and
-Write the implications it will have on the people you love (parents, friends, partner, kid)
– Risk factor involved… What are the odds in the decision you are going to make..
– Compare the above two points and finally fill the last point can you LIVE WITH IT ???
Knowing the odds and the implications if you still think that you have to get it done…
Then move to step 3
Step 3 : Revisit Step 2.
And still if you are sureeeeee
Then certainly you are RIGHT … Cos its your life n you have all the rights to go for it …
Step 4 : stick to your decision …
Cos now nothing else matters …
Eventually what matters is your inner peace …
SO if you think you are moving in the direction to achieve it then you are RIGHT … 😀
ReBOOTing
HOLA…
Back after long 2 year break.
“Laziness works in mysterious ways” and this is an amazing example demonstrating the same.
It’s the time when I started preparing for my GATE exam (with hopes of getting into a good college for my masters) that I suddenly had an urge to fulfill all my dreams and desires :p (being a good and loyal blogger being one of them)
I have recently discovered LEO and his blog http://zenhabits.net/ which I found really interesting.
So henceforth I have decided that I am going to religiously record everything I am learning new. From NP hard problems (from Analysis of Algorithms) to Hindustani music (if I am able to find a teacher for the same).
Till my motivation lasts …
Long live blogging … \m/
UBUNTU DEVELOPERS WEEK
ATTENTION !!!!
ubuntu rokz
All the developers and aspirants (developers), there is a big opportunity to interact with other developers and development gurus. And if u are new to ubuntu it’s a golden oppurtunity to learn about its working and contributing. How to contribute, bug fixing, interaction with other well known developers and much more.
All the details about this one week event starting from today i.e 31st aug to 4th sept can be availed from the given link.
https://wiki.ubuntu.com/UbuntuDevelopment
Classroom sessions are being organized and its really exciting to be a part of it …
Registrstion can be done from the following link
https://launchpad.net/
So ….
HAPPY DEVELOPER’S WEEK …..!!!
MY VISION OF MY INDIA
India is still a developing country.
There are various problems India is facing. Every country faces problem whether it’s a developed or a developing country.
According to me one main problem which if cured efficiently can put an end to many troubles and evils creeping in our society,
Why are politicians corrupt…?
Why are terrorists killing fellow humans…?
Why are riots taking place…?
Why people stealing, murdering fellow beings…?
Why …?
The answer is very straightforward and simple its because they want
MORE POWER …
MORE MONEY…
MORE MORE…
These either because they are not satisfied with what they have or they fear that the one superior to him will crush his existence.
Both the cases are the result of hollowness of heart.
Or to put in better words lack of “values “.
Values here are the one which are taught by our scriptures, our culture is truly rich because it covers each and every aspect of human nature. The methods adopted in it are fully tested and proven. In olden days children were sending to gurukuls for their studies where they use to learn the basic values. A simple example is our culture teaches us all about giving (daan), so it was a rule in olden days that if a guest comes to your house than the duty of the family is first to satisfy the guest fully than only they would think about eating themselves.
As india is globalizing our culture is diminishing there is a need to revoke this trend in our society.
This change itself can solve so many problems of the nation,
With values the satisfaction and contentment of society will increase, greed and hunger for power can be reduced to some extent.
And a man with values will seek proper ways to fulfill his goals and ambition.
He will take care that his fellow beings are also taken care of.
And even in extreme conditions he will not react as badly or aggressively as the one without any values (a very good example is that nowadays every now and then we do hear news of kids shooting their class mates in foreign nations which is still not much frequent in India, which no doubt is the result of past heritage of our nation).
Now how to implement this…
I feel the whole education system of india should undergo a change, but as we seek a fast recovery we can adopt alight change in the curriculum. Although students generally have a subject called moral science in their curriculum, but still lot of revision has to be done to make it work more effecyively.
A child’s mind is like a wet clay which can be moulded in either way, so care should be taken about the way of exposure child gets. Children should be given practical training about thir duties and responsibilities towards society, they should be made aware of our grand culture and hence be taught its values. Parents should be made integral part of this training, special classes should also be conducted for the mentors and guardians on how to deal with children. Because a child remembers each action and hence gives equal and opposite reaction. This can mark a mojor step in evolving a value based education system. Each individual should be made to understand the importance of value based education, of selfless service, of one’s duties towards society and then towards the nation.
Although cent percent participation is difficult to gain but gradually from one individuals to many and then this will cover the masses too.
How this will affect various problems faced by the country…?????????
CORRUPTION
This is a major draw back of our society. But the only answer for this problem is value based education system . No other solution is as promising as the one stated in case of corruption.
TERRORISM
Although the foreign terrorism can’t be totally wiped out but with proper and dedicated authorities, less corrupt authorities and more ethical citizens. Terror attacks will obviously cause less harm. There are many Indians who help terrorists to spread the fire or they themselves become one of them, here value based education system can play a major role.
POVERTY
The cause of poverty is either due to illiteracy or unemployment. Both cases have roots in either corruption or unawareness. Literacy campaigns can spread awareness and value based education can teach each citizen to check that his fellow being is happy and contended.
If implemented properly this value based revolution can bring about winds of change that will not only change the future of our nation, but also lay a bright new path for rest of the world to follow.
If even half of us take a vow to spread this message in masses then in even less than 11 years we will be able to feel a difference.
JAI HIND
FACTORY FARMING – HORRIFYING TRUTH
“The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the
way its animals are treated. I hold that, the more helpless a creature, the
more entitled it is to protection by man from the cruelty of man.”
–Mohandas Karmchand Gandhi
We are humans….
We are the most developed species on this planet earth…
We have the most active and powerful brains among all the species on this planet…
We follow the Darwin’s theory “survival of the fittest”…
We kill the weaker species and feed on them…
All the above give facts are true …aren’t they?
But some of the new practices of men have posed a question mark on the above facts. As man is becoming technologically advanced and developed, his progress is bringing some disastrous change in environment around and even in the minds.
One of such latest gruesome trend is Factory Farming.
Factory farming began in the 1920s soon after the discovery of vitamins A and D; when these vitamins are added to feed, animals no longer require exercise and sunlight for growth. This allowed large numbers of animals to be raised indoors year-round.
This was accepted in many nations as the cost of production reduced considerably, as the land cost, maintenance cost and feed costs.
Moreover, the high input costs of agricultural operations result in a large influx and distribution of capital to a rural area from distant buyers rather than simply recirculation existing capital. A single dairy cow contributes over $1300 US to a local rural economy each year, each beef cow over $800, meat turkey $14, and so on. As Pennsylvania Secretary of Agriculture Dennis Wolff states, “Research estimates that the annual economic impact per cow is $13,737. In addition, each $1 million increase in PA milk sales creates 23 new jobs. This tells us that dairy farms are good for Pennsylvania’s economy.
But, these plus points seem only meager infront of the suffering and harm to nature.
Along with causing harm to surroundings, natural bio diversity the biggest price is paid by the animals.
In some videos the bare truth is so harsh that I couldn’t even dare to watch full video .
Here are some shocking facts….
Pigs
It is estimated that 90% of all pigs raised for food are confined at some point in their lives. Pigs are highly social, affectionate and intelligent creatures, and suffer both physically and emotionally when they are confined in narrow cages where they cannot even turn around. Many pigs become crazy with boredom and develop vices like mouthing, and nervous ticks; others are driven to fighting and cannibalism because of their frustration. Pigs are born and raised inside buildings that have automated water, feed and waste removal. They don’t see daylight until they are shipped for slaughter. Dust, dirt and toxic gases from the pigs’ waste create an unsanitary environment that encourages the onset of a number of diseases and illnesses, including pneumonia, cholera, dysentery and trichinosis.
Veal Calves
The veal industry is notorious for the cruel confinement of calves. Calves are kept in small crates which prevent movement inhibit muscle growth so their flesh will be tender. They are also fed a diet deficient of iron to keep their flesh pale and appealing to the consumer. Veal calves spend each day confined alone with no companionship and are deprived of light for a large portion of their four-month lives
Dairy Cows
Dairy cows are bred today for high milk production. For cows who are injected with Bovine Growth Hormone, their already high rate of milk production is doubled. Half of the cows in the national dairy herd are raised in intensive confinement, where they suffer emotionally from being socially deprived and being prohibited from natural behavior. Dairy cows produce milk for about 10 months after giving birth so they are impregnated continuously to keep up the milk flow. Female calves are kept to replenish the herd and male calves are usually sent to veal crates where they live a miserable existence until their slaughter. When cows become unable to produce adequate amounts of milk they are sent to slaughter so money can be made from their flesh. The cows are kept in a holding facility where they are fed, watered and have their waste removed mechanically and are allowed out only twice a day to be milked by machines.
Turkey
The birds live mired in their own waste, breathing strong ammonia fumes, which burn their eyes and lungs. To keep them alive in these filthy, disease-ridden conditions—and to stimulate their growth—farmers feed them antibiotics. Because the birds are drugged and bred to grow so large in such a short period of time, their bones can’t support their weight, and many suffer from broken legs. Some birds attempt to drag themselves by their wings to reach food and water.
At the slaughterhouse, the terrified turkeys are hung upside-down, and their heads are dragged through an electrified “stunning tank,” which immobilizes them but does not kill them. Many birds dodge the tank and are still conscious when their throats are cut. If the turkeys’ throats are not cut properly—which happens often—the birds are scalded to death in the tanks of water used to remove their feathers.
This was all about suffering of the poor speechless creatures. But apart from this this also cause harm to the environment, usually the most fatal communicable diseases are spread in unhygienic as ideally provided by these farms. It is being reported that SARS was first detected in a owner of duck farm ( this has not yet received scientific confirmation yet).
Waste Pollution and the Environment
(1) The USDA reports that animals in the US meat industry produce 61
million tons of waste each year, which is 130 times the volume of human
waste – or five tons for every US citizen.
(2) North Carolina’s 7,000,000 factory-raised hogs create four times as
much waste – stored in reeking, open cesspools – as the state’s 6.5 million
people. The Delmarva Peninsula’s 600 million chickens produce 400,000 tons
of manure a year.
(3) According to the Environmental Protection Agency, hog, chicken and
cattle waste has polluted 35,000 miles of rivers in 22 states and
contaminated groundwater in 17 states.
(4) Pfiesteria, a microscopic organism that feeds off the phosphorus and
nitrogen found in manure, is a lethal toxin harmful to both humans and
fish. In 1991 alone, 1,000,000,000,000 (one billion) fish were killed by
pfiesteria in the Neuse River in North Carolina.
(5) Since 1995, an additional one billion fish have been killed from manure
runoff in estuaries and coastal areas in North Carolina, and the Maryland
and Virginia tributaries leading into the Chesapeake Bay. These deaths can
be directly related to the 10 million hogs currently being raised in North
Carolina and the 620 million chickens on the Eastern Shore of the
Chesapeake Bay.
(6) The pollution from animal waste causes respiratory problems, skin
infections, nausea, depression and even death for people who live near
factory farms. Livestock waste has been linked to six miscarriages in women
living near a hog factory in Indiana
(7) In Virginia, state guidelines indicate that a safe level of fecal
coliform bacteria is 200 colonies per 100 milliliters of water. In 1997,
some streams had levels as high as 424,000 per 100 milliliters
What can we do about it ……….
The best thing one can do is…
TO TURN TO VEGETERIANISMvegetarian food is not just a treat for your taste buds – it is great for your health too. Leading scientists are now proving that what we eat directly affects the quality of our lives. While animal foods contribute to cancer, heart disease, obesity and many other killers, a vegetarian diet can make us healthier and much much more….
But some might find difficulty in turning vegetarian all of sudden so, atleast you can see to it that you don’t contribute in such inhuman act. In india factory farms are still less in numbers compare to other countries in the world.
Apart from that we as Indian hold a moral responsibility toward every fellow living creature.
In srimad bhagwad gita (chapter 14, verse 5) lord Krishna describes three types of qualities-goodness(satva), passion(rajah ) and ignorance(tamah). Each one of these binds human mind with their respective nature. Satva leads to selfless attitude toward work, rajah leads to workaholic nature and tamah leads to ignorance and laziness.
The point to note here is that it is said that food also varies in these three categories and the type of food taken by a person also reflects the nature and the qualities to be shown by him.
In verse 10 chapter 17 Lord describes the kind of food
the food intake of animals slaughtered in these factory farms (not to mention the suffering and torture they undergo before dying) surely lie under this category. So eventually even if we are forced to eat such food this will eventually lead us to ignorance. And ignorant citizens will not be able to contribute in building of our nation.
Even if one doesn’t follow hindism but at least as humans it is our moral responsibility to stop this massacre.
There are many sites which will give more detailed information about the suffering of animals.
Some of them are
http://www.organicconsumers.org/Toxic/factoryfarm.cfm
http://www.idausa.org/facts/factoryfarmfacts.html
http://www.worldwatch.org/node/1547
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/asia/factory-farms-in-asia-blamed-for-pandemic-473244.html
http://www.chow.com/blog/tag/factory-farming
http://www.petaindia.com/campaigns/veg.asp
http://www.britannica.com/blogs/2009/02/factory-farm-workers-face-first-ever-felony-cruelty-charges/
http://www.petatv.com/tvpopup/video.asp?video=West_Virginia_Turkey_Farms_Investigation_2008-Peta&Player=wm
KIRAN BEDI…
“Im here to do my best for the day” – Kiran Bedi
KIRAN BEDI is a household name today. The name itself has become a source of inspiration to many and also a symbol of celebrated strength of a woman.
Her life is a tale of struggle and triumph of woman standing alone in a male dominated society. One of the most admired Indian celebrity, apart from serving the country for 35 years she has also been a lecturer, author of many books, coloumnist and she even has represented India in Asian tennis championship. She is a sought after speaker on social, professional and leadership issues. Apart from all she is an excellent mother , a homemaker and an inspiration of millions of people around the globe.
Kiran Bedi was born on June 9, 1949 to Prakash Lal Peshawaria, a landlord in Punjab was determined to educate his four daughters at a time when women were largely limited to doing household tasks. Both held unconventional views and this gave the girls grand opportunity to excel in their respective fields.
Kiran did her schooling from the Sacred Heart Convent School, Amritsar, where she joined the National Cadet Corps (NCC). She also took up tennis, a passion she inherited from her father, who himself was a talented tennis player. Later, she obtained her B.A. in English (Hons.) (1964-68) from the Government College for Women, Amritsar. She then earned a Master’s degree (1968-70) in Political Science from Punjab University, Chandigarh, topping the University.
She worked as a lecturer in Political Science (1970-72) at Khalsa College for Women, Amritsar until in 1972 which was very special year for her as this was the year in which she meet her life partner Brij Bedi and also got selected in Indian Police Service(IPS) which made her first woman to join the Indian police force. It is said that Spectators at the 1973 Republic Day Parade were amazed to see a lady at the head of the Police Contingent. The then Prime Minister, Mrs. lndira Gandhi was so impressed that she invited Kiran for breakfast with her the very next day.
In the police service she served in a number of different and challenging assignments that range from Traffic Commissioner of New Delhi, Deputy Inspector General of Police in insurgency prone Mizoram, Advisor to the Lieutanent Governor of Chandigarh, Director General of Narcotics Control Bureau and also on a United Nations deputation. She was the traffic commisioner during ninth asian games in Delhi in 1982 and Common Wealth Heads of Government Meet in Goa in 1983. She was unsparing in enforcing discipline on the roads. Due to presence of large number of cranes to remove wrongly parked vehicles – including that of the former Prime Minister, she was nicknamed ‘Crane Bedi’. Her dedication and devotion was awesome as in each new postion she brought new reforms in the old depilated police system. Many times she had to bear the heat of her superiors too.
Kiran Bedi also influenced other areas like control of narcotics, traffic management and VIP security. During her transfer to Tihar Jail as the Inspector General of Prison she worked relentlessly to give jailed convicts a new lease of life through meditation and spiritualism. She initiated a number of measures in prison management some of them are yoga , vipassana meditation, and redressing of complaints by prisoners. Her humane and fearless approach has contributed greatly to innumerable innovative policing and prison reforms.
All this she says was not possible without the help and support of her family which she says is her true assets. Her daughter Saina was born in 1975 after 3 years of marriage.
Kiran Bedi has set up two major voluntary organizations called Navjyoti and India Vision Foundation
with the objectives of improving the condition of the drug addicts and the downtrodden. Her organization has been applauded from far and wide. It was also awarded ‘Serge Soitiroff Memorial Award’ for drug abuse prevention by the United Nations. She has recently been appointed as Director General of India’s Bureau of Police Research and Development
Earlier, she was Police Advisor in the United Nations peacekeeping department, and has also been honored with the UN medal for outstanding service. She is also a widely read author, her works has been a source of inspiration for many of people who have lost hopes in the government system.
On jan3 2008,she has launched a website to make complains online for the people who are unable to register FIR or are facing some problem due to red tapism.
Based on incidents of her life a documentry is all set to realese “yes,madam,sir”.
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Career Highlights
* In 1977, she put an end to the Akali-Nirankari Sikh riots at India Gate.
* 1979, as DCP (West Delhi), she broke up a 200-year-old illicit liquor trade.
* In 1981 as DCP (Traffic) she controlled traffic during the 1982 Asian Games efficiently. She didn’t hesitate to tow away cars and once even challaned the Prime Minister’s car for wrong parking near a car repair shop.
* In 1985, as DCP (headquarters) she ordered 1600 pending promotions to be made in a single day. Standing instructions were issued that if any file was not cleared within three days the person concerned would be called personally to explain the delay.
* In 1993, as the Inspector General of Asia’s biggest jail – the Tihar jail (9100 inmates including 300 women) she turned the unlivable jail into an abode of education. Said Kiran while joining her posting at the jail, “I want to transform this jail into an Ashram within six months”. She introduced many classes and programs for the inmates including those on basic education, meditation, yoga besides functions like mushairas, kavi sammelans, dramas and games, which involved the jail inmates. For her effort to humanize the Tihar jail she was honored with the 1994 Ramon Magsaysay Award.
She has received many awards during her tenure.
Her life is a legend in itself, although the journey has not been very smooth but she came over all the odds and has truly earned herself a honoured place in the history of India.
A homemaker …
A reformer …
An inspiration …
A legend …
A phenomenon in itself
THATs KIRAN BEDI…
AND thats what you call “TRUE WOMEN POWER”…..
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my refrences
http://lifestyle.iloveindia.com/lounge/kiran-bedi-1131.html
http://www.jeetegakaun.in/celebrities/kiran_bedi/
http://lifestyle.iloveindia.com/lounge/kiran-bedi-1131.html
http://www.igovernment.in/site/bedi-launches-website-to-file-complaints/
http://www.iloveindia.com/indian-heroes/kiran-bedi.html
http://www.indiavisitinformation.com/indian-personality/Kiran-Bedi.shtml
IT ISN’T TIME THAT IS PASSING…..
IT ISN’T TIME THAT IS PASSING…
Remember the long ago when we lay together
In a pain of tenderness and counted
Our dreams: long summer afternoons
When the whistling-thrush released
A deep sweet secret on the trembling air;
Blackbird on the wing, bird of the forest shadows,
Black rose in the long ago summer,
This was your song:
It isn’t time that’s passing by,
It is you and I.
— Ruskin Bond
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